The female body is amazing. It goes through massive changes and actually adapts to the current situation and so on. During the pregnancy they often go to “wow” factor stage and I don’t know about you but I would love to keep them that size. And when its time to deliver the baby/babies the body is on the mission producing the little ones food hunger demands.
The first couple of days after the baby is born, you will produce Colostrum, = sort of pre-milk. This pre-milk is slow (stubborn), which is good for the little one as he/she learns to nurse, coordinate sucking, breathing and of course swallowing.
The pre-milk can either be thick and yellowish or thin and watery.
The colostrums are highly important to the baby as it contains appropriate amounts of carbohydrate, protein, and fat. It also provides digestive enzymes, minerals, vitamins, and hormones that all infants require several protective properties, like antibacterial and immune –system-boosting.
These are the 2 most important ingredients you will not be able to find in those replace formulas.
The pre-milk will be replaced within 3-4 days with milk that looks just like the one you keep in your fridge. But taste like milk with sugar. It’s sweat and, yes as mum you will try it! Dadds are more chilliness about trying. Not Joe in Freinds.
10-14 days the milk is considered as mature milk, which your baby will be in control of the production of it responding to how much the baby wants during the feeds.
The baby may be in control of the milk amount but, you however are, control of what you eat, your diet. This will reflect in your baby as he/she is growing.
If you eat more sweet and unhealthy processed, un-organic food your baby will receive that in the milk. And if you are on a stupid, crazy loss weight diet you should be slapped so hard on the face. If you skip meals, eat unhealthy food, drinks and smoke fags by your baby and drink alcohol…
what do you think the outcome will be for your own flesh and blood?
I will not even bother going down on that route as I will think you are the selfish un-mature person who probably wont ready to be a mother.
And if you are doing any of these big NO, NO shame on you!
After a conversation with a friend on whatsapp, (again love Iphone.)
I have to confess that I have been so lucky to have a particular support from someone I am still getting to know. She lives in Sweden, has two adorable children, a girl and a boy. Not once have I met her.
She texted her existence into my life the 4th of January 21.49 on the dot, I cried as reading her supporting text message.
Someone I didn’t know understood me.
Another friend far away had suffered from baby blue/ Postpartum Depression. Back then I thought it will not happen to me and I felt sorry for my friend who I know was over the moon to be a mum.
It did happen to me. I had my bundle of joy during Christmas time = family time. I had my family with us and later on my other half parents. But then suddenly a horrible day came and they were gone. Just like that G O N E. I cried non-stop and even more every time I was holding my little one. I did not know what to do.
Today I feel guilty about having baby blues, as I got so much love and sometimes others might feel that I am drown him with it
I got all these amazing support, midwife Gilly (everyone should have a midwife like Gilly, I still see her, she calms and make me and my baby smile) who got me to see Chris. Chris is one of a kind, he opens my stubborn mother eyes and somewhere on our building bridges I know “that I know my baby better then anyone”.
My Jen, looking after me. Thanks to her that text message on the 4th did mirecle and I am forever glad I got another friend. Jen did something else for my sad soul. On a weekend, a Saturday morning, I wasen’t really that kin to do anything. I jumped in to the shower really late. I heard Jen go inside as I out. My Helly was there.
My 2 friends. I cried non stop, repeating
- “how did you get here???"
Support is important after given birth and is needed for a very long time.
So instead of coming with useless sentence, like; what you should and shouldn’t do for the baby or get the new mother to doubt her already good job, and even worse just because you have had children of your own does not make you a baby expert. Forbid you might have raised child/children in the Stone Age I know you will never stop being a parent, but you, got your chance. If this is YOU! You should just SHUT UP.
You will only, end up with a horrible stamp, and even worse the new mother may never trust you to be alone with her bundle of joy! Respect & trust is very important when a little human being is involved, even more if it is your own flesh and blood.
In psychology, trust is believing that the person whom is trusted will do what is expected. It starts at the family and grows to others. According to the psychoanalyst Erik Erikson development of basic trust is the first state psychosocial development occurring, or failing, during the first two years of life. Success results in feelings of security, trust, and optimism, while failure leads towards an orientation of insecurity and mistrust
Seriously think about whom, you want to be. The person not being trusted with the baby/babies?
Or be a wonderful, forever grateful friend/support?
Loads of love to all of you! You know who you are!
Pregnancy is a wonderful journey. When it happens you will be forced to make all these decision and the weeks flies away. Normally you notice that you are pregnant around week 7 and suddenly without knowing it you are week 25 and your bump is there and you are glowing. Suddenly its time… The first meeting with your little one.
Bump gone. You got all these memories, the first kick, the morning sickness, tired feet’s, baby shower, and conversations with the baby inside. So did you get loads of pictures of you and your pregnant look? Did you do a Demi More? A Britney spears?
Front cover?
I admit I used my Iphone. I hope I wont hate myself for the fact I cant print them out- Iphone has not got enough pixels, they are all low res Mobil images. I should have known better I work within photography. I got a couple of photographs with the bump and my favourite is when my other half and I are fooling around at work and we got a snap shot of him holding and kissing the belly, in black and white.
I know better today, I am a bit wiser. So for my lovely Jen I have been busy brainstorming, researching pregnancy photographs, as I will photograph her and her lovely bump.
This mission has kind of got me going… I actually want to photographs after many years of not wanting, I DO NOW.
I don’t want it to look “horrible wipe out the skin totally retouched” I want it to look naturally against black background, have wind in the hair. I just want my Jen to smile and away and share the story with the little one as he grows up.
I have photographed several weddings, babies but never a pregnant person. But hopefully with the right kit I will get the image that my Jen will always love forever.
I will let you now how it goes…
If you know someone who is about to have a baby and you want to do something special for her then snap loads of pictures of her and document the belly growing and after she had the baby. Trust me, she will miss that pump, perfect time to hand over your photographs, put them together in a nice story write week and dates.
Put some of her typical comments. Like Jennie always says “he is chilled out like his dad”.
Every pregnant female wants a photograph of the bump!
PAIN is a warning signal that something is wrong in your body. Do we really listen? No! I don’t. Don’t know about you but I tend to just swallow painkillers, precisely in total in a day, 14 pills. I AM A PARACETAMOL AND IBUPROFEN JUNKY.
So I have woken up and gone to bed with this horrible pain in me leg, starts from the left buttocks travels down to me toes.
Let me introduce you to Sciatica Nerve damage pain. Which can happen to anyone who will give birth. I really wish someone, would have told me that this problem can occur if you’re not nice to your body and don’t treat it with yoga or see an osteopath. Like me.
My pelvic (picture above) is still wonky after the birth. Yes the baby travels through them when coming out, so if the baby is massive big, maybe have cserian in mind. We can debate about this,
Not being around for the birth when they cut to get the baby out and not feel the birth of your baby?
Or if using forceps which is a consist of two branches that are positioned around the baby head. Forceps is forcing the baby out, which means is on someone else’s demand who will grab your babies head, mark the baby (my baby has a scar after birth nearby his eye) and literally destroy your pelvic. And you will have this what feels forever pain.
Your choice, im just serving the options on the plate.
In my case is not just my wonky pelvic that is pressing on me big nerve, I got discs bulging out and that’s all me to blame. I never have been nice to my back. Heavy lifting, weight manic, never stretching, no yoga, no osteopath, don’t sit straight with my back etc etc.
In 20 weeks I have been to doctors several time, had an MRI scan in a lorry on a car park, and seen a physiotherapist. Who feeds me more pain. I got, left to attend a pain management, (to me, it sound like, angry management, I may suffer a bit from that, these days as well) and I’m seeing the specialist end of next months. Surely you would think, see the specialist first… and from there work.
I am within UK borders and backwards it is...
My advice, strongly recommend.
Do yoga, stretching as much as you can before and during the pregnancy and see an once a month a osteopath.
I have seen 3 osteopaths.
1. Really liked her! thanks to her I could put me shoes on me without pain. Her voice was so soft, bedtime story reader. I would love to see her again but she is in kensal rice- to far. Lilliann: 020 8969 5115
2. I loved her info leaflets (above). They are eye catching, but when I left her i felt more pain then before and rest of the day was spent in day. Fun mum NOT.
She is Hornsey and I may give her a second chance. Diana: 020 8348 5848
3. She does everything! My first trip was good. I liked the fact how she does OSTEOPATHY, ACUPUNCTURE, HOMEOPATHY. I must be in good hands. As she is also in Hornsey and remind me of the way Lilliann treated me. I will see her, Jeanette Jeanette: 07887 907 026
Sunday, 8 May 2011
Having a baby dose not have to cost that much! EVERYONE has an opinion about what you should get! And of course NOT TO GET! When the baby is out you will end up with so many things, I ended up with loads of baby clothes.
But a point out, which I wished I had, was a baby-shower. Gather your friends, see how creative they are and see what how they used their “childmind” when selecting out present.
SO to help that “CHILDMIND” out…
1. Sophie the Giraffe / The Ultimate Tool for Teething
Lifesaver! The French Giraffe Sophie is a baby’s best friend with magical powers.
You can read more about La Sophie on kidsen blogg.
But buy from Mother Care; you can get Sophie La Giraffe Gift set for £ 19.99
2. Barnkammarböckerna
If you happen to be born and grown up in Sweden, this will be one of the ultimate present\gift you can give. Barnkammarböckerna (book), collection suitable for any child/children as well as adult/ adults and it comes with a cd. Sleep, cozy, singing or read out load times, there is a Barnkammarbok for any moments. I bought the silver one for my baby, as I got sick and tired of singing songs bonus and I mostly forgotten it came with a cd which I have on me iphone. So my bugaboo pram is a denim special edition as it sings on the streets. I would like to own all of them. The publishers have published ‘my own barnkammarbok where you as a parent can fill in…
4. Clothes, primark is not cool!
Giving clothes as a present is always nice, but not if it’s not 100% organic cotton!!! For babies to wear organic 100% cotton is dead important. Why?! As cotton these days are not created equal. Scary is, when reading that some so called 100 % cotton are mixed with cancer- causing chemicals.
Babies have sensitive skin and weak immune system so to take under account that organic clothes Is the only way to go.
5. Cocoa butter formula Tummy butter.
Thanks to this miracle cream I did not get a single mark or stretch on my body during my whole pregnancy. Love it! I could not get enough of the moisture that made my pregnant belly so soft. I still today use it, great for hard heels!
6. Lansinoh
Trust ME YOU HAVE TO HAVE A TUBE OF THIS as soon as the baby is out! My nipples were bleeding my first week. My baby and I did not have a perfect start when it comes to breastfeeding. It was “nipple -feeding” and a nightmare for me! I was in pain, but thanks to this miracle cream and loads of support from super mummy Karro and “breastfeeding whisperer” Jennifer, I could bond with my baby and I love every minute of the closeness.
7. Lavender Bath Soak
A baby shower does not necessarily have to be a present for the unborn; it could be for the mother to be. It’s a heavy job!
I have never been a fan of the fragrance Lavender. But my pregnancy changed that for me. It has this unbelievable calmness effect and I bought this amazing round container that had lavender bath soak powder from the body shop. Anything with lavender is a good present; you can even buy a lavender flower for the mother to be to have by her bed.
8. Gym Math
Back-time, a colourful padded mat with stimulating toys on arches for overhead play. Tummy-time, lowering the adjustable arches makes the transition to tummy-time easy. A comfortable pillow and mirror will encourage baby to spend time on her tummy whilst strengthening the neck and shoulder muscles.
9. Leka Mobil
Lena Håkanson has designed this Leka Mobil. It’s a barging "up in the air toy" price for £4.07 that stimulates the baby’s eyesight and movements, and most importantly a mobile that gives the baby something to interact with and focus one.
10. Lamaze Freddie The Firefly
These toys engage and entertain the little ones for hours. What’s so good with them is that you can clip them on: the car seat, pram, pushchair, and your baby gym play mat, thanks to the Lamaze link clip.
12. the baby lamp…
to scare away the monsters and the light to create the right mood when breastfeeding at night time. We bought the star as I my little one is my star and I love the colour blue. I loved the fact how the lamp has got that extra child safety and most important uses energy-saving bulb.
13. Philips AVENT SCH550/20 Bath and Room Thermometer
This item can create a discussion, especially if it’s between a Swede and a Britt. In Sweden the law says the houses these days should have triple glasses (used to be double) while in the Uk you can have single. The law says in Sweden not below 21 degrees. If you live together whit single glass in your home, where should you have your cot to put your newborn in? And how often should the heating be on? This great little flower monitors both room and water temperature. You will never have to guess. is it to cold? To hot?
I was itching. I was over the moon! I had a growing baby inside of me and I really wanted to share the news with this someone special. My friend Jennie.
I knew who Jennie was from back home, but it was within the UK borders that I really got to know Jennie. Today, probably my best friend and my baby’s L aunt Jen.
I had this idea that I would met up with Jennie, things would be normal and out of the blue I was going to say, you going to be aunt Jen. BUT no, trying to get a date with miss J was harder then ever and my whole plan went to trash, when trying to get us to meet up. She spitted the words out (total Swedish translation) “ Are you with baby?" Through the phone…
As I was so itchy I came clean and admitted my happiness. I was going to be a mum and Jennie was going to be the aunt… Over the phone…
As baby grew bigger, I developed “baby brain”, I m guessing around week 46 on the 18th of November. I had just managed to get us in with UCL hospital.
Jennie came to meet up with me, as we sat down in the waiting room, speaking Swedish Jennie says, “I’m pregnant”.
I cried of joy! SO happy!
I got to be what Jennie had been to me, the best midwife ever. I have to confess Jennie did a way better job then me. Being a mum totally put you inside this bubble and you tend to forget people…
But I’m so forever happy that I got Jennie, she still comes and sees us with her baby inside whenever she can. AND I LOVE HER FOR IT.
So in Return I’m going to make something spectacular for her!
