Hmm what a twist. Don’t tell the bride is one tv while I got me time reading "We Parent" (Swedish) magazine. The article I’m stuck on is. Sex once a week. Too Little?
Obviously it’s a female behind the article explaining, that she and her partner been a couple before having children. They both got fulltime job, house, the kids, and sex is not the first on the list. And the desire for sex has been low many years.
Her husband however thinks about it ALL the time, and argues that sex once a week is way to little. He has, however let her know that if it continues with too little love -making (again sex once a week) he wants them to separate. She also writes in the article that he needs to please himself every day and without sex he is grumpy. He can also be highly rude and mean if no sexual activity has taken place. She feels stressed about this but gets really happy when she gets out of the lovemaking. They have talked a lot about the subject and he feels that she is the one with problem. She does admit that he might be right. She has brought up the subject going separate ways as they fight a lot but then she will be the one breaking up the family. She ends the article with, she is unsure about her feelings towards him and according to him if you love someone you would want to have sex all the time. Is that so? (Again her thoughts). How often is normal? (Again people her and not me).
From a male point of a view, my other half says, he has all the right to get crumpy. Sex is important. I agree sex is important. What this article is not revealing is how many kids do they have and how old are they. That is important facts.
If you just have given birth to a baby, I can understand sex is not the priority! And the medical people don’t recommend lovemaking seven weeks after the birth.
Or if you have been through something that needs time to heel sex will not be on your mind.
But eventually the body will desire sex.
I can understand its stressful having house, kids, fulltime job and on top of that a partner. The house, the kids, the job, the husband/, is all the Ingredients you need for the family recipe. But I found it hard to imagine that a happy couple would not have sex. Unhappy couple I can understand.
My opinion is, I think her feelings have gone to be, love. You love your job, you love your dog. You love your family. That type of love you receive when its there all the time. That type of love, same shit, different day. Its not new, it’s not exciting.
That is why I strongly believe that when being in a couple you both need to maintain the sparks. Why settle for a spark, when you can have sparkles.
All the time? And imagine no spark and no flame?
My theory is based on my feelings towards my other half. He is a hansom, good looking and is the love of my life. Everyday as he leaves the house wearing Christian Dior’s Higher, looking sexy all I can think of, imagine having him in bed just for a bit longer. Not for the sake of having sex. Just to be near him, and be in his arms.
The closeness can be even better then sex.
I guess I won’t be telling the bride on tv about the article that’s sadly some sparks does fade out.
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