Happy bride, unhappy mum, sex longing hubby.

Hmm what a twist. Don’t tell the bride is one tv while I got me time reading "We Parent" (Swedish) magazine. The article I’m stuck on is. Sex once a week. Too Little?

Obviously it’s a female behind the article explaining, that she and her partner been a couple before having children. They both got fulltime job, house, the kids, and sex is not the first on the list. And the desire for sex has been low many years.

Her husband however thinks about it ALL the time, and argues that sex once a week is way to little. He has, however let her know that if it continues with too little love -making (again sex once a week) he wants them to separate. She also writes in the article that he needs to please himself every day and without sex he is grumpy. He can also be highly rude and mean if no sexual activity has taken place. She feels stressed about this but gets really happy when she gets out of the lovemaking. They have talked a lot about the subject and he feels that she is the one with problem. She does admit that he might be right. She has brought up the subject going separate ways as they fight a lot but then she will be the one breaking up the family. She ends the article with, she is unsure about her feelings towards him and according to him if you love someone you would want to have sex all the time. Is that so? (Again her thoughts). How often is normal? (Again people her and not me).

From a male point of a view, my other half says, he has all the right to get crumpy. Sex is important. I agree sex is important. What this article is not revealing is how many kids do they have and how old are they. That is important facts.

If you just have given birth to a baby, I can understand sex is not the priority! And the medical people don’t recommend lovemaking seven weeks after the birth.

Or if you have been through something that needs time to heel sex will not be on your mind.

But eventually the body will desire sex.

I can understand its stressful having house, kids, fulltime job and on top of that a partner. The house, the kids, the job, the husband/, is all the Ingredients you need for the family recipe. But I found it hard to imagine that a happy couple would not have sex. Unhappy couple I can understand. 

My opinion is, I think her feelings have gone to be, love. You love your job, you love your dog. You love your family. That type of love you receive when its there all the time. That type of love, same shit, different day. Its not new, it’s not exciting.

That is why I strongly believe that when being in a couple you both need to maintain the sparks. Why settle for a spark, when you can have sparkles.

All the time? And imagine no spark and no flame?  

My theory is based on my feelings towards my other half. He is a hansom, good looking and is the love of my life. Everyday as he leaves the house wearing Christian Dior’s Higher, looking sexy all I can think of, imagine having him in bed just for a bit longer. Not for the sake of having sex. Just to be near him, and be in his arms.

The closeness can be even better then sex.

 I guess I won’t be telling the bride on tv about the article that’s sadly some sparks does fade out.

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Second hand car seat? YES? NO?

This time last year, I was looking for the perfect pushchair and everything else that was a must have. But as my partner and I was forced to move again, (just before the baby was popping out early December,) and we were really looking forward to a normal flat with space where we did not have to live with our belongs packed in boxes. 

 

I wanted a Bugaboo. I had to have a BUGABOO. But bran new one cost a fortune. I was not really fuzzy that the pushchair needed to be bran new. I rather have the cot I wanted which was a white Brio and a nice mattress.

After loads of disappointing biddings on eBay and losing drove me mad. I switched over to Gumtree.com and found this 007 special edition blue denim Bugaboo. It came with everything including, car sit, rain covers both for pushchair and car sit, and the lambskin mattress (which I never did receive). All for £350, I added another 50 as the owner was going to sell it to someone else. 

BUT I was desperate, what kind of a new mum to be did not have everything ready by now??

I had no cot, baby room, baby clothes, and etc etc… anything for a baby I did not have. This time last year I only had two and half month left. I had nothing for a baby.

Of course I wanted to buy things, but I was working like a crazy and that shity flat we lived in before this lovely home, drove me insane. I did anything to be away from it.

I was and still am very happy with the Bugaboo. I love it. I rewashed and dyed the denim fabric and as the baby came around Christmas it looked so “heavenly” after my mum put in my old baby foot muff.

I have to admit I was always concerned about the car seat. Was it an older model? It looked so used.

It was a maxicosi. A USED MAXICOSI. What do you know about baby car seat before the baby even arrives? Seriously???  If you answer I know everything, I really would like to punch you. I don’t believe that.

As my baby is growing, almost whole 9 months, I am still learning. I’m so happy I have signed up to be a member at Crouch Ends library. All those books to dive in. When time allows me. I have and I am reading JO Frost’s Confident Baby Care. She is not UK most trusted nanny. I think she is the worlds trusted nanny who tells you everything you need to know in the first year of your baby’s life. I got the book on Monday and its Wednesday today and already I have dived so deep and ménage to get to page 121.

So far I think the book is ok, haven’t found something wow jet but, (but I do have problem putting the book away)  however page 56 under the paragraph CAR SEAT

NO USED SEATS. And when I handed over the money to women who sold me the Bugaboo and things came with her partner and baby boy I did not even once asked uis the car seat safe? Has it been in any accidents? I do not ask anything part from, how does buggy work?

I bet super-nanny is huffing and puff at me. In her book, page 56, its written: 

In the beginning I did not found second hand wrong. But I would advice to be more careful when purchasing things. I would say it's better to go yourself and view the item rather for the seller to come to you and you feel you have to pay them for things that in the reality looks more shabby then on the photographs you saw on the internet. 

Babyworld.co.uk however says a big NO, NO, NO 

If I had read this article on Babyworld last year, I don't think I would have bought the car seat.

Hopeful I have helped you out. So ask questions when wanting to buy. 

What bra to get???

Back to the “favourite” topic, breast. For some becoming pregnant and suddenly have bigger breast is a dream come true. For me, not. I always thought big breast are in the way. But I have to admit as the belly was growing, it was nice to have fuller breast to make the body look right.

I remember in the beginning, my back was hurting, and I just could not find the time to go and buy new bra for pregnant me. I had tried couple of shops to get a proper me measured, Ann summers was one of the places and I thought as I came out of the shop utterly useless and waist of time.

During the pregnancy your breast will get about 10% bigger. The pregnancy hormones will stimulate the milk making parts of the breast to grow, so therefore you will feel the breast being fuller and tender. You might not know this but the Areola (the dark skin around the nipple) will also get darker and larger, all so the little one will find it easier to find the place to eat when first being born. Further in your pregnancy it will be more noticeable to see your own blood vessel. The skin is stretching as the breasts increase in fullness. Use Palmers Tummy Butter. It is the must have to have when being pregnant.

“THE” formula for how to look after your breast during pregnancy does not exist. As every female are unique, different and beautiful different things works.

I loved the Palmers Tummy Butter, which I did rub all over me. I also used Clarins Tonic Body Treatment Oil Firming/Toning and Relaxing Body Balm. The body balm smell always reminds me of the belly I had. I was addicted to these product, I was rubbing it on me non stop. 

 

My advice when you breasts starting to hurt go to Marks and Spencer and get fitted. I was so happy with the help I got from all these women. I had demands on the bra, I had to have wire. Back then I could not understand why you should not have wire.

 I wanted that extra help to lift them and with the job I m doing I cant go around with un-supported breasts. I got fitted, I got my size, I had gone up with 2 size, went to Intimissimi and got bra’s on sale.

After the birth, the wire made it really uncomfortable for me, so I went back to Marks and Spencer’s and got these amazing bras.Pack of 2, adjustable straps, Scallop trim, Drop-down Cups, and of course None –wired. 

And yes, my breast had gone up another size. Felt so wired. Still does and I admit I miss the way they used to be. And I also bought H&M bra and that was waist of money. They were cheap, and you got pack of 2. I used them once and I regret buying them. It’s the Drop-down Cups that is annoying me. Before its meal time for the little one, the breast gets bigger thanks to being filled with milk, and these drop-down cups gives a cap. Not a small gap, a very noticeable gap, when it should cover up the breasts. So I do not recommend the H&M. But these are perfect, (product code T330702M)  just like M&S food ad on tv. 

Need tips on bra?!  read the article All About Maternity Bras on American Baby

Lovely Boey Byer

I need heaven. I need heaven to exist to comfort me that’s where we all end up. 

Becoming a mother, going through the journey having a life growing inside, and this life growing in to a person. Can you ever be over protective? You as parent, are no different from any animal mother, you will kill to protect your own flesh and blood.

This amazing little human being, name Jenessa "Boey" Byers should be as famous as any Starlet.

Celebrities like the Kardashians sisters, Miley Cyrus, Kerry Katona, the Jedwards and so many other (never ending list) pointless celebrities will never reach the same star quality or have the same impact as this lovely little girl.

I was introduced to Boey by Extreme Makeover Home tv show. 

A soul that should be walking among other children, fall in love, travel and explore the world, learn and teach new things, grow to be teenager, young lady and so many other things. 

I cant help, not to get emotional. 

Death and I build a bridge, the day my grandfather could not resist the temptation of being pain free. It turned my world upside down, as I always considered him as my dad and suddenly he was not with us. Cancer came and as I have to blame someone, someone came and stole him away.  Its always easier to blame.

Boey had 8 years of  life and twice being in the battle ring against horrible cancer. First round a knockout. Boey 1-0. And then cancer taking her down and away from her strong and lovable family. The Byers family did have a Starlet with more glam, love, talent… 

There is no perfect adjective that could the describe her. She was such a strong girl, while being in pain she still kept pushing others to fight the battle. Heart of the size as universe have to be in heaven!

Being a parent, even being a new parent. It’s the best job on earth! BUT the worse thing is to see any child suffer and to see your own one…  

WHAT WOULD YOU NOT DO???  

 As the show was coming to an end, so was The Byers home. A dream home.

The shows last frame before the credits rolled up, was black with horrible white messagd my.

Boey had past away. I was crying.

I need heaven. I need heaven to be a place that is real. 

A place were all starlets with a heart as big as the univers are found, 

like Boey and my grandfather.